Birth order: What a crock!

So, I have been reading up on birth order, and how it works. I swear my boys have their personalities confused. My oldest, Gavin is the baby of the family. Maybe that is our fault because he was our first, and you want to do everything just right. Now, my second son, Hayes, is the complete opposite. He is strong and independent. He is not a crier. He only cries if he gets hurt, or if he is extremely mad. If he cries when he is mad, it is over fast. Hayes is so outgoing, and a little ramrod. Gavin on the other hand, is so sensitive, and it seems like he bawls about everything that does not go his way. That may sound harsh, but it really bothers me. I am not overly sensitive. So, when he does not get his way and cries about it, I do not have much patience. I tell him he is a big boy and he needs to start acting like one. I don’t know, maybe that is wrong, but it is how I feel. I wonder if I am hard on him because I want so much for them to grow up to be independent, strong men. I want them to be able to take care of themselves. When they grow up, and when they are young, I want them to be able to make the right decisions and do what needs to be done. I was raised this way. When I moved out of my parent’s house, I never went back. I did not need to be told to make my car payment and to set my alarm to get up to go to work. My husband on the other hand, was not raised like this. I still have to remind him it is time to get the oil in his truck changed, and I pay all the bills, and everything else, which gets pretty annoying. I am really thinking Gavin will outgrow this with age, but I am ready for him to toughen up a little now. He had a Tiger Cub basket ball game Saturday night, and he had been pumped all week for it. When we got there he said he was not going to play and he wanted to go home. I offered to go sit with his teacher with him while he played, and he just was having no part of it. My three year old on the other hand, wanted out there so bad he could not stand it. He was almost mad about it. So, I got upset and told him if he was going to back out on everything, then we just would not play anything else until he gets a little older. I know I might have been just upset, but, I could not help it. I need to learn patience with that child. Like I said, I know (or, really hope) that he will outgrow this. It almost seems like it would be easier if Hayes acted like this too! Then I wouldn’t be able to actually see how he could be acting. Alright, that is my venting session for the week!